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+1 It was awkward enough doing playdates with the cheater dad, but at least I could tell myself that it was about our kids' friendship and I shouldn't punish a nice kid because his dad was an ass.  But then dad makes a playdate, I take my kid to the house and the only adult at home is the homewrecker (of course they moved in together immediately) playing wife and mommy.  So I got stuck having to answer "Who was that lady, she's not Larlo's mom, why does she live there?" and I had to figure out what to say to the ex-wife who is a very nice woman who I like a lot.  Never again![/quote]

NP here.  I find it odd that you have way worse things to say about the OW than the husband who cheated.  IMHO, he's the true "homewrecker" who blew up his own family.  The OW is maybe an accessory to the crime, but the husband is the true criminal in my view.  And in this day and age, you're going to have to get used to explaining to your kids about divorce and remarriage, "Larlo's mom doesn't live there anymore.  Larlo's dad has a new friend that he lives with, and Larlo's mom has her own new house."  Kids are adaptable.

BTW, I have no skin in this game.  Happily married with no indication of infidelity on either side.[/quote]

+1000, I don't understand the people on here carrying on about the OW and how play dates are off limits. These things happen in real life and you as a parent will have to explain how real life happens and that not everyone has the same circumstances as you do. I also am shocked about the moral high horse that many of you sit upon, as though you think life is so very black and white. Eat a piece of humble pie and get over yourself. Be grateful that so far nothing has touched your own life in such a way....I feel bad for your children! [/quote]

It is very rare in real life that an OW ends up being a wife, it is also rare that it works. This is not "real life" .. It's fringe life. Like the dripunl dad who wants to drive my son to the Maryland basketball games, or the stoner mom who is not smart enough to hide it from her kids, or the bipolar neighbor who screams at kids for wearing different colored socks.

Our job is to limit our kids access to crazy.

Being self destructive is not the same as the mom depressed over breast cancer or the dad who is impatient because his brother just died of an 
OD. Avoiding crazy is not judgemental. [/quote]

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