Reply to Married man going to lunch with single female inappropriate?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Married man going to lunch with single female inappropriate?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Quarterly lunches are NBD, OP! In fact, they may indicate that you're not really even close friends because friends see each other on a regular basis.  If you were seeing this person 3-4 times weekly, that might have been a concern.

Do you ever invite others on these lunches?

Here's a test: invite one or two other people to join you. Are you still enjoying lunch? Can you go back and forth between a lunch "just the two of you" and lunch in a slightly larger group?

If tension develops, maybe something's under the surface?

Another test: are you feeling some tension?

If you're feeling mixed signals, why? [/quote]

I used to get coffee every day with a colleague.  We were both in relationships (with people we ended up marrying). EVERY DAY.  There was nothing inappropriate. We didn't say negative things about our partners or anything.  We would walk, get coffee, discuss our cases, chat about whatever.  Eventually we started hanging out outside of work, with our partners.  The four of us are very good friends.  DH has gone on trips with this guy and his friends.

If you find yourself confiding to someone about your marriage, saying things you wouldn't say to your wife, that would be a problem.  But keeping up with a professional colleague is not in itself anything to be concerned with.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics