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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have plenty of friends (of both sexes) who fit this description.  Some of them are seriously rocking it - they have great jobs, own property, travel, have good social lives, look good, date when they want to, and seem happy.  They may want to get married or have kids but they're not letting it rule them.

But some seem like they are marking time until the perfect guy swoops in to save them from their unfulfilled life and they can suddenly do a hail-mary and somehow produce 2-3 perfect children and buy the house they were never willing to buy when they were single.  They seem to be putting their "real lives" on hold waiting for marriage and kids.  Ironically, some of these people have great lives too, but they don't realize it.

I prefer hanging with the first type.  It's easier and more fun.  And frankly, it's really hard to do happy hour with the second type, because they are (a) too busy looking for a dude to actually hang out with their friends, and (b) going to compete with you for the attentions of males if you are also single.  Women who are anxious to settle down do not usually make very good wingmen.

As for why women end up child-free and single at 40, there are lots of reasons.  Some of it's bad luck or bad timing - they might have done everything right and still just not found someone.  Not everyone is ready at 25 to meet someone, which is when single dudes are most plentiful.  Then once you get past a certain age, you meet more married folks (or badly divorced folks) than single ones.  Some people don't try hard enough to get out there and meet people.  Some people have such high standards that they are fishing from a very small pool.  Some people have unrealistic standards and the people that attract them are not attracted TO them.  Some people don't do well on dates, and come off as awkward or boring.  Some don't want kids, and some don't really want to get married.

[b]For every deal breaker I can think of in a relationship, someone I know has that "deal breaker" and is happily married anyway.  For every awesome "marriageable" trait out there, someone I know has that and is single anyway.  There's not always logic to it[/b].[/quote]

Great post, thanks! I also fully subscribe to the bolded part; sometimes, there is no discernible cause-and-effect when it comes to human relationships.[/quote]

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