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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My best friend is 42 and really wants a husband and a baby but it's looking like it won't happen anytime soon. She is beautiful, kind, smart and independent. She was in a long term relationship with a man who kept telling her she was the one but he wasn't ready to settle down. He also did not want to have a baby. After years of being together she gave him an ultimatum and he walked. A year or so  they broke up my friend found out that he had a girlfriend who was pregnant. It devasted her. She finally got I to another relationship with someone who she settled for and eventually grew to love but he lied about money and at 45 was really bad with his finances. He owed so much on his credit card and he was buying new cars and motor cycles. She found out he was in a huge amount of debt and still spent money recklessly. He had her buy a motorcycle on his name when he accidently forgot his wallet at home. This was the deal breaker for her.  She is now depressed about the fact that she may never become a mother and it's all she has ever wanted.[/quote]

This is where I blame the woman for letting stupid men take away their chance to have a family. She should have stopped her pill long before and let nature run it's course. Too bad if he didn't like it, he was leading her on like many men do.  Why you are seeing record numbers of professional women having kids without being married.  Women are always happy they have their kids and grandkids, men on the other hand typically don't last due to divorce, or death.

Yeah being depressed and not taking control of her life is really going to help. At her age I'd make sure to have a child with or without a partner.  Best thing I ever did was have my kids, but I also know a lady like her.  She is now 50 and miserable. She let all these men dictate and take away her happiness.   Poor choices.[/quote]

So, as someone who did not marry until late (and was fine with that), and also did not want kids, I tend to be very sensitive to critiques about, ya know, spinsters and their bad choices.

But in this case, it really does sound like your friend set herself up for not getting what she wanted. It is obviously not an impossible feat to get married and bear children. Most people do it. So probably having kids is not the only thing she ever wanted - it sounds like she may also have been into the thrill of not knowing, or enjoying sex with reckless men, etc et.

I'm sorry she didn't get what she wanted, but I am guessing that she also kept herself entertained with the drama.[/quote]

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