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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My Child graduated from a big 3 a while ago but the most popular mom was obese and her offspring was even bigger. They both had big personalities and inclusive attitudes. After the first meeting I never even saw their size just their smiles. Sure there are lots of beautiful people with even lovelier checkbooks that get tons of attention and Ivy acceptances but they are not judging you. Relax and realize that all those clothes probably mean a stressful job and a high pressure life.[/quote]

Love, love, love 'never saw their size just their smiles.'

In terms of OP's question -- our DD was at a feeder for the 'big 3' (probably the most DCUM-'discussed' such 'feeder' in the region).  DH and I in no way fit any kind of profile I'd read or heard about for that school (in terms of the specific question here, DH is very overweight -- I am naturally thin but not at all toned or 'fit' so my body image wasn't fitting stereotypes about pre-Big-3-school either.

It took us 6 months after DD's enrollment to realize every.single.stereotype we'd heard about could be blown out of the water in seconds.  We ended up making lots of friends, despite appearances or neighborhoods or anything else.  I will always treasure the people we met during those years (we've moved away from the area) and always regretted that I spent so much emotional energy worrying about 'what if we don't fit in' etc., etc.,.

Good luck, OP:  weight stuff is so difficult, on so many levels.  [/quote]

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