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I hope your husband goes balls deep in a woman who finds him humorous, sexy and interesting. YOU SUCK, OP. [/quote]

Lol. If she was willing to be a sister wife that would be great. Give me a break.  I'm  joking.

He wouldn't cheat that's actually one of his  good qualities. He's very loyal. We both are. I wouldn't step out on him  either.

People keep asking why I married him or what attracted me to him.

Let's see I met him at 22. He was the nicest of the guys I had dated up to that point. His family wasn't a total mess like the  families of past boyfriends. He had chosen a good field to work in.
He was nice. He was cute. We had fun together.  The sex wasn't bad. We dated for two years. He asked me to marry him. I said yes. We planned a wedding and a year later were married at 25.

If you are asking if I had giggly butterfly feelings for him. I never did. I  felt safe and comfortable around him. I still do feel safe around him.

I do think I loved him or thought I did. I think I still love him now, I don't wish ill on him.

But 10 years later he's not who I thought he would be, and if that's terrible I can own that. It's also disappointing.

As for divorce it really isn't that simple, not to mention no one in my circle has been divorced for reasons beyond infidelity, I would be scrutinized. Plus, I'll be 33 in June. I want children. I'm not getting any younger.
Divorcing and starting over would make my small window of time even smaller.

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I feel for you only in so far that you cannot seem to understand that this is not a healthy relationship for you or for him. You care so much about what people in your "social circle" think that you alienate the one person who is suppose to matter the most, your husband. I really urge you to have a deep conversation with him, lay out everything you have poured out here on DCUM and let him speak his piece.

It sounds like you married him because he asked you to, because you were already together for a while, and he provided what you assumed to be a comfortable feeling for you, unfortunately you missed the mark on how 10 years would change someone. That's why everyone warns against young marriages, but I'm guessing your "social circle" only cared about what kind of engagement ring you'd be sporting and how you would plan your lavish wedding. Who you guys were at 25 and who are you now heading into 35 is very different. Your life ambitions, goals, and end game is no longer the same. Do yourself (and him) the favor of having the discussion to figure out if you truly want to build a family together when it's been this long already. If you're afraid of "starting over" because you're 33 and it'll take time to date, get engaged, and married to have kids again...know that at least you'd be finding someone you WANT to be with for the rest of your life. Someone who makes you happy and you make them happy, presumably. Because right now you sound more like a really awful greedy, self centered bitch so not sure that starting over would be helpful for you until you change your attitude, or until you meet someone who is equally as superficial as you.

Your husband deserves more respect than what you give him, and that's just from a perfect stranger's opinion on a forum.

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