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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your father's wife has asked the grandchildren to call her Grandma, your father has asked the grandchildren to call her Grandma Larla, and you think that the person/people whose preferences should be honored are the grandchildren? Why?[/quote]

This.

You call people what they ask you to call them.  If you call them something else, you are picking a fight. In this case, the kids are going out of their way to point out that the new step-grandma is not REALLY a part of their family. They're being little shits and you're letting them do it. [/quote]

Oh, bullshit.  Would you say the same thing if your kids were forced to call your DH's new wife "mom"?  Same fucking thing, you ignorant bitch.[/quote]

I agree with the substance of this but not the tone.  I am divorced and if my ex's new wife insisted that our kids call her Mom, that would be wrong.  When
my FIL moved a girlfriend into the house 6 weeks after MIL died and that girlfiend wanted my kids to call her Grandma, all of us were shocked - me, my then DH and our kids.  Our 5 yo didn't want to call this new lady she didn't know Grandma.  Not because she was mot REALLY a part of the family but because she was not BIOLOGICALLY a part of the family.  That's what Grandma means - that you are the mother's mother by birth or adoption.  If you're marrying into a family then you've got to use some other moniker.
 - not mom, not Grandma.[/quote]

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