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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I question op's premise. My kids come before my spouse and I hope he feels the same way. And I'm still on my first and hopefully only marriage. [/quote]

Well if your kids are first then your husband is last. I don't know anyone that likes to be the last priority. Most women think its ok to put their husbands last behind their kids. That's part of the reason men get so unhappy in their "relationship" because the woman stops being sexual with the husband and the man becomes nothing more than a wallet and a whipping boy for her to complain about.

It is a mistake to put your husband last. Kids will grow up and move out. The husband wife relationship should be the one that extends beyond the kids growing up. Too often women simply say.... well... my marriage sucks but I'll stick it out for the kids.... and divorce once they are grown... [/quote]

I don't think of my DH as "last"'even though I would put my kids needs before his needs. I guess the better way to put it is that we both prioritize the kids over ourselves or each other. I think that's just being a grown up.  He's not a whippng boy I complain about and it's not like we never have date nights or get away by ourselves but we are at the stage of our lives where these kids we had come first and most of our attention and energy (and money!) goes to them. [/quote]

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