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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe, but that wasn't the scenario, which was $300 for a stepdaughter's dance and the second wife/stepmom quibbling over the fact her husband agreed to it, instead of taking the view that as stepmom she should welcome the chance to bond with her stepdaughter.[/quote]

To be fair, if the kids are all "Thanks! Bye!" then run off and prevent Dad/Stepmom from enjoying any of the homecoming experience as parents, as far as Stepmom's concerned, it's throwing money into a financial and emotional black hole. no idea if OP of that thread cares, has attempted to care for, etc., her stepkids.[/quote]

Kids are kids, and they're not emotionally mature.  They may resent stepmom for stealing dad, or not being their bio mom, or because she has pretty hair, or because she is nerdy when they want her to be cool.  All of that is okay.  Stepmom has to take it and be the bigger person.  One day they will come around and realize how great she is.  In the meanwhile it's stepmom's job to nurture them and help dad take care of them, not resent them for being "a financial and emotional black hole."  They are still children, while stepmom is not.[/quote]

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