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[quote=Anonymous]So how does my DH keep me willing to have sex as much as he does?

1) He is very affectionate, even when there is no sex in his future. He is always hugging me, kissing when greeting or leaving, snuggling with me on the couch, holding my hand in public. We went many, many months without sex due to some things that were going on in our lives. His affection did not change at all.

2) He makes me feel like the sexiest woman in the world. Even after gaining 20+lbs. He tells me I'm beautiful and how lucky he is to have me. When I change clothes, he stops to stare at me and even grabs a boob. (Even when there is no sex in sight.)

3) He does a majority of the housework. He likes a cleaner house than me, so he does more of the work. But because of that, my sexual energy isn't being drained away by the dirty dishes in the sink.

4) I alway, alway, alway have an orgasm when we have sex (and usually more than one). So even if I'm tired or not in the mood, I can usually muster up the energy to start. Once we get going, I'm totally in the mood. Luckily, now I orgasm easily. So there isn't too much effort on my part and his. But in my younger days, it was very difficult. And the best boyfriend I had made sure that foreplay started hours, if not days ahead of time. Again with no pressure to have sex now. So we would deep kiss in the kitchen for 2 mins while making dinner. Or he would stroke my boobs during commercials on the couch. The key was no pressure to follow through that evening.

5) Now the one area he is lucky is I prefer we talk about sex vs non-verbal seduction. I much prefer a phone call at work telling me that he'd like to have sex tonight. Or a question on Sat morning about when would I like to have sex this weekend?  I think because I don't see sex as a chore or one more thing I 'have to do', I don't mind scheduling it. I think what most women want is to be turned-on on a low level, so that when you do approch them, they want it also. But when you are at a zero, no sexual desire and a mounting to-do list, and sex is brought up--ugh. [/quote]

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