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[quote=Anonymous]I feel the same way about her.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband is very good-looking - fit, looks young for his age, dresses well - but I am not

attracted to him at all. Why?

1. He is not good at sex. Not at all.
2. We have little in common and our personalities don't mesh well.
3. He is sitting next to me picking his toenails right now, just like he does every night. 
4. He has a terrifying temper and the few times that I've seen it flare, it really damaged my emotional trust in him. For women, that's essential to sexual connection.

I blame the lack of sex on our fertility problems but it's not about that. I do appreciate all his good qualities, though. He has a kind heart and more than pulls his weight around the house. If we do manage to have a child I know he'll be a good dad. Then we'll be too busy to bang. [/quote]

1.  No, you are not good at sex.  At all.  You see, if you were, you could have very enjoyable sex even if the other person isn't very adept at it.  Frigid, sexually neurotic women always blame their partners for their sexual problems, never themselves.  That way, they never have to fix themselves.  Further, if you were any good at sex, at all, you would never have considered marrying a person who was in actuality not good at sex, at all.

2.  Maybe your personalities don't mesh well because you don't take personal responsibility for your life and seek to blame others.  Try being nicer for a change.

3.  He is picking his toenails.  That bothers you, and you don't like him much at all.  Why don't you turn to him and suggest:  "Honey, I don't like sex with you, you're no good at it, and I don't like the way you pick your toenails.  I don't like you at all.  I don't know why I married you.  I'd prefer if you'd stay out nights drinking and chasing pussy, so why don't you go do that?"  You see when you actually have to make a CHOICE you don't get to be so selfish, PP.    Give him permission to have as much sex as he wants with any other woman he wants with no recriminations on your part.  That's called being "fair," PP.

4.  He has a terrifying temper?  I'd like to beat the shit out of you myself, PP, and I don't even know you.  Somehow I think you must be the kind of person who brings out the worst in others.[/quote][/quote]

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