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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I don't think me getting dunk was the issue. Without going into too much detail I will provide the bad news. Last week she found her chance of fertility is 10%. She has dealt with pcos and ovarian cysts. 5 out of 8 women in her family have had endometriosis and ovarian or cervical cancer.

We both really want children. This was and is devestating news. We had a discussion and I told her I was unsure if I can see a future without children. She said she loves me but understands if this is a deal breaker. She doesn't want me to give up or ruin my dream of having a family.

I wasn't as supportive as I should of been. I told she I needed time to digest things. I forgot my iPad is synced to my phone and she read emails between my sister and I. I said that I didn't I could live life w.o have a bio child and I want a wife that can give me that. I was very emotional and did not mean I would end anything with her.

She ( girlfriend) wrote that she was disappointed by me choosing to go out and get drunk, rather than be there for her. Also telling my sister upset her. This is why she said she needed a break.[/quote]

Yeah, this is bad. The way you wrote the initial post, I assumed someone in YOUR family had been diagnosed with cancer, or arrested for a crime, or something, and in that case I would absolutely say your behavior was no big deal, and if she can't live with you going out and getting hammered one night, she's not at all serious about the relationship.

But this is something that happened to HER. As much as you want to pretend it's something that happened to the two of mutually, your very explanations about "finding a wife who can give you biological children" prove it happened to her and not the two of you. You've said it right there - you have the ability to move on and find someone with whom fertility will not be an issue. Whether she stays with you or you leave her and she finds someone else, she will always be dealing with this. The issue is hers, and you flunked on being supportive big time. [/quote]

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