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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In your opinion, if a man is I married, but typical background (college, maybe masters or grad school, healthy dating background) no long trips or absences. At what point do you begin to thing it's that either he doesn't want to be married or is not marriage material?[/quote]

Strong suspicion at 35, lost cause 40+.[/quote]

This.

IME, when a man has a lot going for him and is still single over 35, you need to run far!  Regardless of the man's delusions and lies, the reason is always something horrendous.

Between ages 19 and 25, I dated a string of smart, very educated, financially successful men with high powered careers.  They were between the ages of 35 and 42, and all seemed *amazing* on paper.  I used to refer to them as "DGs" -- damaged goods -- when regaling my girlfriends with stories because, to a man, all had serious flaws lurking below the surface that made them utterly unsuitable for anything meaningful.  [b]As young as I was, I had all the time in the world, so figuring out each guy's fatal flaw became a highly entertaining game.[/b]  From being serial cheats to being on medication for major mental problems to having sexuality issues to just outright hating women, each one had a major shortcoming -- and all of them hid their issues very well.  I couldn't have cared less because I was looking to be wined and dined, and knew from the get go that I had no intention of being faithful or serious with men that old.  Technically I was in a couple of LTRs, but an LTR that you know you are going to end as soon as the guy reaches his expiration date is just different.

[b]I set myself a deadline of 25 to kick the geezers to the curb and find someone my own age for something meaningful.[/b]  I met DH at 25 and was happily married at 27.  My DH was 28 when we married and we are super happy.  Now, here's the funny thing.  Of the guys I have kept in touch with loosely, some eventually married as their looks started to fade and their penises grew limp, lol.  That means they were actually marriage material, right?  Nope.  None are happily married.  In fact, the very virile, tall, super handsome one who liked to fellate other men on business trips while pretending to be straight at all other times is still giving blow jobs behind his wife's back.  If his wife had known to give a single 40 year old man the side eye and a "bye Felicia," instead of marrying him, she wouldn't be stuck with a closet homosexual right now.

FWIW, never married women over 35 who look good on paper are bad news too.  I have a few dear girlfriends in this category.  Awesome friends, but I'd never let a male relative date one.[/quote]

There's a difference between dating a guy who's pushing 40 when you are in your 20s, and you "have all the time in the world," and doing the same when you're 35 and essentially in the same boat as he is.[/quote]

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