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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do these arguments always turn into women hating on other women? Fact is if ANYONE takes 13 yrs out of the work force -- man or woman -- to change diapers and drive carpool and occasionally attend a PTA meeting -- their career trajectory will suffer. Do people think it's any easier for SAHDs? I know a SAHD dad who has been home for 7 yrs and is now trying to re-enter since his daughters are both in school -- his process sounds no better than any SAHMs process. It's not like people are leaping to give him a job or even an unpaid internship bc he's a man, while brushing off the women. If anything, he is also getting an undertone of -- so you stayed home to take care of the kids, full time, for nearly a decade WTF -- from male hiring managers.[/quote]

I think it's harder for SAHDs because, even some SAHMs I've known, are very judgmental of them. I agree with you totally. This is not about the OP. All of these posts are not about that. I hope she's still reading this and she gets that. Most of these posts are spawns of other posts. Feminism is not about staying home and everyone understanding when you come back that you were doing the most valuable thing with your time imaginable. I mean, seriously, the fact that people come on here and say something about feminism and then berate a working Mom assuming that she is a bitter divorce or gave her children to someone else "to raise" is pretty hilarious.

Feminism is not about every woman understanding every other woman and all of her choices. It's not about applauding each other all of the time. The fact is, no one has to care about anyone else's choice. You do what's best for your family and no one can say anything about it. You can go to work and put in your time and get paid the same amount as a man in the same field with the same background. A Dad can stay home and you can work full-time. THAT'S what the feminist movement got us. We can tell our girls that they can do anything they want to do. If that's staying home, then so be it. Staying home doesn't make you anti-feminist any more than going to work and believing that someone with a 10 year gap in experience is less qualified that someone right out of school for an entry level position. The fact is that the person just out of school has been "in the game" more recently. Preferably, they have worked in college. Had an internship in the past few years. It doesn't mean you think the SAHM is weak or lazy. It means she may (or may not) be less qualified than another applicant. Believing that doesn't mean anything about your view of women. It means a lot more about your view of your workplace.

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