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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is such a nasty thread and I am amazed that nobody wants to call out the op.

It is your stepdaughters home for the time being as well.  She knowingly married a man with a Christian daughter.  Let her have a damn tree - it's not going to hurt you.

As a Christian I would never want someone under my roof to feel unloved including the celebration of their religious holidays.

I think sour op wants to pretend she doesn't have stepchildren, or worse, is afraid folks will gossip at her temple about her Christmas tree.

I feel sorry for that stepdaughter who clearly has no home.  I guess she's just a shiksa though.[/quote]

You just don't get it.  As a Jew, I'm very worried about my children assimilating into the dominant Christian culture.  You act like we can just have a tree in the house and that's fine.  It isn't.  For Christians, you can dabble in other people's traditions and that's fine, because you're the vast majority.  Jews aren't.  We have to constantly guard against assimilation.  That means, among other things, keeping a Jewish home.  A house with a Christmas tree isn't a Jewish home.  OP cannot accommodate both the stepdaughter and her own desire to have a Jewish home.  PERIOD.  They're mutually exclusive.[/quote]

Well I appreciate your candor but this is a mixed home in which the younger children are being raised Jewish.  If preventing and avoiding assimilation were the only drivers in life op would not have married a Christian man.

The Christian girl has rights too- she is not a second class chils[/quote]

The problem is that only one person can have their way here. [b] Why should SD get a veto over OP and her kids?[/b]  [/quote]

Because OP is an adult and has a responsibility to make her SD feel welcome in her home, and because I doubt the kids have strong feelings on the subject.  A small Christmas tree (remember that the only folks talking about 8 foot trees are the Jewish purists) is not [i]instead of[/i] a menorah.  It's[i] in addition to[/i].

I said this above, but I'll say it again - OP has the opportunity to model the kind of welcoming attitude and religious tolerance that she would want for her kids when they go out into the world.  [/quote]

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