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Wait a minute, it's been 7 years that you've been hanging in there but you have a kindergarten-aged child?  How can that be?[/quote]

What a dumb question.  Are you an idiot?   :roll: [/quote]

Well, it'd either be IVF or it'd be adultery. Now if OP had a baby with another man while she was still married to her husband, don't you think that'd make things a teeny bit different?

I don't really see the need to be defensive about privacy when you're asking the Internet to be a free marriage counselor. [/quote]

I'm the one who asked.  My point was if things started going south 7 years ago, to the point where you were just hanging in there, how do you have a 5-year-old?  An "accident" I could almost understand, but I don't understand going through IVF (BTDT) to create a child with someone with whom you're just hanging in there.   Maybe things weren't that bad 5 years ago?  [/quote]

OP here. Things weren't that bad then. They weren't great but not horrible.[b] And the problems we had I blamed on being new parents and exhausted.[/b] I thought eventually we'd find our way out of it. We never did and things snowballed to now.[/quote]

That makes sense.  Sorry things went downhill. [/quote]

really?? if you are honest with yourself did you put you husband second behind the children? Often wives go full-on mom mode after kids. This means the kids come first in everything and the mom also starts treating the husband like he can't do anything right when it comes to the kids (e.g., holds them wrong, feeds them wrong, does too much of this, to little of that, etc.). The mom spends all her time focused on the kids and doesn't give the husband any attention and affection. This makes the husband feel unwanted and unneeded. Just think of all the jokes and stereotypes of the "stupid" husband/father. My guess is that you did these things and this is the consequence.  [/quote]

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