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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could never talk about my precious pets the way you speak of your cat.  [/quote]

This. This is what I find most upsetting on this thread. It's not the conversation about when it's the right time to euthanize, if this is the right time, etc. It's the bone chillingly cold way that OP talks about this creature who has lived with her for 13 years - longer than her husband, longer than her kids.

I don't know if she's maintaining some ironic distance to keep herself from feeling this loss too deeply. Maybe. Maybe she's just a dry person. I don't know. I hope that it's one of these explanations.
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You're right, you don't know OP or her state of mind or her style. Her posts have led me to believe that she's trying hard to make it work and that she is not taking this decision lightly.

You don't mention if you have children - I know I was much, much more attached to my pets before I had kids. Afterwards, of course I still loved the pets and cared for them, but I was able to be somewhat more dispassionate about them because my children changed our family dynamics. And not just in the "who would you save from fire first, the kids or the dog?" way. I needed to hold myself together when the dog got sick BECAUSE my young children needed me. I couldn't fall apart completely, nor could I put my other family responsibilities on hold indefinitely to attend to him 24-7. [/quote]

Oh brother.  Don't get into the ol' "You'll know once you are parent" song and dance.  That is old.  I'm a parent too (NP here) and you don't have to do much for a cat (esp. the one who, as OP described below, does not seem to want much) even if children are sick.  I have two SNs kids who end up in the hospital multiple times a year and for gosh sakes, it doesn't make you a saint if you "don't fall apart" and simply make sure cat is allowed to have the same home she is used to.  Don't paint all parents with the same "Stupid" brush.  We have 3 cats, all rescues, got them all before we had kids, now have two SNs kids; all of us co-exist in the same house and we all have our needs met AND we don't live in a hovel either.  Have some higher expectations of people.  :roll:   [/quote]

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