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Do you have as hard a time as I do? Or have you found a way to cope?

Seriously, some days I think my head will explode.

Me too. And if you are anything like me, it's not about neatness or someone 'not being like you'. It's much bigger than that. When I can't find a space to eat at an 8 person breakfast room table because he's sprawled his stuff all over it within an hour after I have cleared it. When I trip over things he's 'storing'. When there are 8 junk drawers between the kitchen and dining room holding - junk. When I come downstairs in the morning and find drawers open. When it costs thousands of dollars in emergency vet care because he's left something open and the dog got to it. When all the printers, etc are in his office and it's a hazard to walk in there to get something off the printer. Ad nauseum

For those that think it should be easy, that we should just be able to throw this stuff away, etc, it's not that easy. One of two things happen. Either there's outright hostility or there is a passive-aggressive slam waiting for you down the line.

Right now, I'd settle for just being able to hire someone to fix the doors with holes in them - the standard ones Lowes carries for $23 that he claims are not to be found anywhere, and other household maintenance. The man is a millionaire and throws fits when I hire someone as 'he can do it'. He doesn't.

+1 here, too. 
The control issues, anger issues, and pitting the kids against me can't get any worse if we were to split, frankly. Besides, he would love to think he can do better. Until they meet his family! They make my family look normal. [/quote]

It's all a calculus. It is clearly less of a hassle putting up with it than not. Otherwise, you aren't being rational in terms of sticking around. I always tell people. Do the math.

Many times, it's easier to just let things go because in the long run they aren't big. You DH sounds like a hoarder. That isn't a little issue, PP.[/quote]

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