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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]My parents divorced after 26 years of marriage, when both my brother and I had finished college and were out on our own. Their divorce was not an amicable one. Now that we have families of our own, we are really feeling the repercussions. Each parent complains about not having enough time with the grandkids. Planning family events and visits is exhausting and frustrating as they can't be in the same room together. Before making the decision to divorce, please consider the impact on your children and grandchildren.[/quote]

Honestly, I don't get that. My parents did the same thing. And yes, while it was hard for them, they were both eventually happy about the split and could be in the same room (my father was fine the whole time, and my mother simmered down once the divorce and financials were all dealt with). I don't get it. [/quote]

I don't either.  I wish I understood.  My dad has a long-time girlfriend who my mom despises (and never fails to tell us so) and my dad is also furious about my mom's current relationship.  My brother and I moved on and had our own families, but holidays, kids' birthdays and family get-togethers are very difficult when you have divorced parents who hate each other and won't be in the same room together. My mom made a scene at my daughter's baptism lunch because she didn't want to be in a group family picture with my dad and his girlfriend. I also hate having to divide our time between so many places (my husband's parents are also divorced, but amicably). My kids are still little, but sometimes I think about their confirmations, high school and college graduations, weddings, etc. and it makes me very sad that my parents are incapable of putting their issues aside to participate in family events under one roof.  [/quote]

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