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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP here -my text got lost in quote.

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Parent of an almost-18 yo. We told DD that we would pick her up, no questions asked, at anytime day or night. We told her that she would never get in trouble for this.

We also told her that if she was EVER found to be drinking / drugging and driving that we would personally arrange for the MVA to rescind her license until she was an adult (the MVA has a process for this). We bought a breathalyzer and did test her with it once, mostly just to prove that we would use it and she shouldn't think it was an empty threat.

She called us. Not terribly often, but enough that I noticed that she took us seriously. Would I prefer she didn't drink? Yes. Would I prefer that I didn't have to occasionally drag myself out of bed after sleeping to pick her up? Yes. But I took great care to reinforce that my number one value was no drinking and driving. I NEVER lectured her for having me pick her up. If it had become a weekly thing, perhaps I would revisit my approach, but it was infrequent enough that I never indicated I minded. I didn't want to create any disincentive to being called[/quote]

I'm the PP of the above. Wanted to add something. DH and I drink at home and at dinner out occasionally (in moderation). One time we drank too much on a date and ubered home. I made a big deal about telling DD that we did that. I emphasized that while it would be better not go have done that - we were absolutely unwilling to drive drunk.

I've also told DD that if for some reason she cannot arrange a ride etc; better to stay out all night without permission than to arrive dead and on time. Ie don't freak out that you have to get home no matter the cost. She never stayed out all night. But with all the above information I hope I've made it clear to her there is no excuse or justification in the world for drunk driving. [/quote]

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