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[quote=Anonymous]I'm an adoptive parent, and I have come to the conclusion that infant adoption, in most cases, is a solution in search of a problem.

Most women who find themselves pregnant and really don't want to be parents probably will get an abortion. Those women who carry to term are more likely to be conflicted -- they might want to parent but don't have the resources or aren't in a good situation in their lives.

(My daughter's mom was poor and had no family support. She actually took our daughter home from the hospital but brought her back three weeks later because she was in over her head. There is no doubt in my mind that with more supportive resources, she would've chosen to parent.)

The situations that keep women from parenting are often temporary problems, and they are problems that have lots of solutions that are way less drastic than saying, "Fine, we'll just have someone else parent your child." The reason why adoption is so often trumpeted as a solution is because there are so many couples who can't readily have children by other means, and who are willing to pay a lot of money to adopt. Even a nonprofit agency relies on income from adoptive parents to continue operating and pay its staff and directors.

Meanwhile, there are plenty of older kids and disabled kids who really need homes. But most couples considering adoption after infertility are not interested in parenting kids with those sorts of challenges. (Not trying to guilt trip anyone -- I'm not, either.)

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