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[quote=Gaia][quote=Anonymous]I guess this is more of a comment than a question, and it's a stupid one at that.

When I notice someone who I think may be transgender, I tend to take a longer look at them than I would someone else.  It's not general curiousity, but specifically curiousity about their gender.  It bothers me that I do this - I don't want to seem like I'm staring, or make someone uncomfortable, or do anything that is unkind or cruel in any way.  I think it is my mind's way of trying to categorize, in the same way I take a longer look at anything else when I can't place it in the "correct" mental box at first glance.  Again, it bothers me that I do this, but taking a second look seems to happen automatically.

What, in your position, do you make of this?  Do you notice people doing this with you at times?  If so, is it uncomfortable for you?  If so, how can someone like me do something that eases that discomfort?  A smile?  I REALLY don't mean to be offensive.[/quote]

I notice, but I've never liked people to pay attention to me. Being in the spotlight, even before my transition, was difficult for me.

I can generally tell a curious stare from a hostile one and while I'd much rather take somebody being intrigued by me over one that makes me happy that looks can't kill, I still get uncomfortable. A smile would help, but not as much as realizing that you really don't need to know the gender or sex of that stranger. You wouldn't stare at an amputee, wondering about how they lost that limb, so please don't stare at me.[/quote]

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