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[quote=Anonymous]Since we are on the topic of coercion, it most definitely can fall under the definition of rape.  IT ALSO MIGHT NOT.

Here is some info that I copied and pasted from a sexual abuse help website:

Coercive sexual abuse is difficult to establish, or even to admit to oneself. Were we sexually assaulted or did we agree to it? The abuser can simply say that we did (finally) agree to sexual intercourse, after a little persuasion, or once our 'bad mood' had departed. But we can left feeling confused, dirty, betrayed and assaulted. We do not know whether to report it. Surely the first question the police will ask was whether there was force used, or violence threatened? In most cases we prefer to 'forget' the matter and hope it doesn't happen again - but chances are it will, as once the abuser has found that coercive sexual abuse works without any obvious repercussions on him, why stop?

A great article - "Victims of sexual coercion are often blind to the crime" - http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/nov/26/victims-sexual-coercion-blind-to-crime

Another definition:

Coercion 
Coercion is the use of emotional manipulation to persuade someone to something they may not want to do – like being sexual or performing certain sexual acts.  Examples of some coercive statements include: “If you love me you would have sex with me .”, “If you don't have sex with me I will find someone who will.”, and “I'm not sure I can be with someone who doesn't want to have sex with me.”  Coercive statements are often part of many campus acquaintance rapes.  Being coerced into having sex or performing sexual acts is not consenting to having sex and is considered rape/sexual assault.

So really?  THe bottom line is that you can't be coerced "and then consent."  If you are coerced, you are coerced.  The consent is to prevent something negative (and please can we ditch the teenage "I'll break up with you" trope...that is not a very good example of coercision) from happening to the victim, so their "consent" is to keep them (or  maybe their children or loved ones) safe.

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