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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here, haven't read the whole thread.

Regardless of what you call it, I don't think anyone can dispute that it is purposefully causing pain as a means of behavior modification.

That's scary to me, and not something I'm comfortable with or consider moral as a means of child discipline.[/quote]

All punishments cause some sort of pain, whether it's physical or emotional (from isolation, banishment, restriction, denial of privileges/pleasure, criticism, disappointment, etc.) What makes physical pain, specifically, immoral?[/quote]

[b]I try not to punish, instead focusing on problem-solving.[/b] The only classic "punishment" I use is removal from a situation when my child's actions are currently dangerous. All behavior has an underlying reason and motivation, so dealing with that is usually more effective in my experience.

Causing physical pain purposefully like that just feels wrong to me. It seems abusive. The basic dynamic even when I was occasionally spanked as a child was something like "I love you and I want you to improve as a person, so I'm going to hurt you unless you act as I think is best". After watching a dear friend get out of a terribly abusive relationship in our teen years, I cannot see how it is at all loving, moral, or appropriate to involve non-consensual physical contact in a non-emergency interaction with anyone.

Just how old are your children?
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