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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again.  How is that other moms seem to take girls trips?  I know is not quite my situation, but I see other moms all the time heading to Jamaica or Vegas or some other such place and it appears to never be an issue with their spouse?  How does one make this work in a marriage?

Financial issues aside, because quite frankly, with my mom giving me the money, it is no longer a financial decision.  As for my mom being against it, she is anti-Castro, pro-embargo.[/quote]

Those other moms taking "girls trips" don't have husbands who hide bills. They also probably aren't choosing these trips over family vacations, but have them outside of other family obligations. Your DH may also view this $3k gift as an opportunity to get the whole family out from under the cash flow issue. How many weekend trips is that? Or, babysitting money?

You can't compare yourself to these other moms. You are operating within a very different context.

The fact that you may also take a hit at work can't be overlooked either.

If you can keep to the family vacation plan, and implement to changes you discussed initially (changing the cleaning schedule, one less dinner out per week), it still doesn't clear the way for this trip. My husband resented everything about me, and it sucked. How well do you think you could handle the resentment your husband may feel if you push ahead with the trip? I couldn't avoid what my ex-husband hated about me (level of education, extended family, upbringing). You can. Is it worth it?

Cuba will still be there. It's not going anywhere. You and DH have a wonderful adventure to look forward to in the future.

I think this is a case of a Pyrrhic victory. Be cautious about how much you push.
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