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[quote=Anonymous]I think what is hardest with my two teens (16 and 18) is that they don't want to be home with me or are too busy to spend time as a family. They're either not here (very common) or in their rooms. I always thought that we'd have the 'cool' house where the kids would come to hang out -- not the case. Since I'm divorced from their dad, it is very quiet at home most of the time.

Two examples: Last night DD was home, so I asked her if she wanted to watch a movie with me; she said no, she'd rather stay in her room and watch something on her laptop. DS, meanwhile, was out at a friend's game. He came home around 11 and went straight to bed without even saying "hello" or "goodnight." DD also went to bed without another word while I was down in the basement watching a movie. Woke up this morning to find both gone. DD is at a school function that she told me about. I heard DS get up early and by the time I got out of bed, he was gone.

They're not out doing "bad" things, though I know they drink and am pretty sure they smoke pot. However, they both get good grades (A's and a few B's), are active in sports, and have nice friends. I don't feel like I can ground them or insist that they stay home just because I want to see them more. Many times I think I should just do my own thing (socialize more, go to the gym whenever I want etc.) but it almost feels like giving up on our family and that we'd all just spin out into our own little orbits. Our house feels more like a boarding house than a place where related people live.   [/quote]

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