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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Interesting, 13:24, and thanks for responding.  Another "white" actor comes to mind-  Wentworth Miller.

I do indeed have an Asian-white kid and he looks of ambiguous ethnic origin.  Will be interesting to see how he's identified by others; I have a feeling it will be white, as he definitely looks whiter than he does Asian, though as I said, it's hard to say what his ethnicity is if you didn't already know.[/quote]

Yes, I am actually familiar with Wentworth's dad (black man) and Wentworth is definitely a good example of another biracial treated as white by society.  People who say the one drop rule holds are not really aware of the millions of biracial people who they [i]think[/i] are white and treat accordingly. [/quote]

13:24 (and also 13:46) here.  It will be interesting to see how your son is treated once his Asian parent is seen with him and people realize he is half-Asian.  I had a "HaPa" friend in college who felt that, when he was growing up, [b]his teachers would treat him differently after meeting his Asian mother at PTA meetings[/b].[/quote]

What was his experience?[/quote]

Well, just things like, for instance, he felt he was good enough to be a starter on the basketball team and the coach had been really complimenting his ball handling.  And then his mom came to school and he said that the coach made a comment about not knowing he was Asian. After that, he said that the coach was more critical of his ball handling and suggesting that his jump shot needed work.  He felt that the coach stereotyped his athleticism based on his Asian blood.  I have no way of knowing if this was all in his head though, but for what it's worth, other Asian male friends of mine have said that they felt people downplayed their athleticism.  He also said that, for instance, he was up for the lead in a school play, but the girl who was in the lead laughed at the idea of him being cast opposite her and made a small Asian dick joke.  Again, maybe this has nothing to do with why he was not cast.  I am just giving you [b]his[/b] perceptions.  Oh, and he said that he felt that the Asian thing might have affected his English teacher's grading of his essays.

All of this could just be his interpretation.  It also might have just been that these people didn't have anything against Asians necessarily, but were surprised to learn that he was Asian because he didn't really look it unless you knew to search his features.  Like I didn't know he was Asian when I met him, but then when he told me his mom was Asian, suddenly, I could "see" it.[/quote]

Interesting, thanks for your responses.  A lot of people tell me that our son looks just like his white dad, but with very Asian coloring.  I think it's obvious when DS is with me, that he's part white, but I don't know what people think when they see him with DH.  DH has never been asked if DS was adopted, but we also have a 100% Asian (same ethnicity as I am) daughter whom we adopted and only one person has asked DH if she was adopted when they're together.[/quote]

IF the kid has your coloring, he can't look that white.  Sorry.

But people are so oversensitive these days that even if you see Kevin Hart with a kid who looks like Dakota Fanning, you had better not ask if she is adopted…or you are a racist.

People probably wonder about your DH and your kids, but no one wants to give you an opportunity to cry racism.
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