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[quote=Anonymous]The posters who have said your DH needs to grow up are 100% correct. However, I have BTDT, and while I am happy to report that after 15 years of marriage and 10 years of parenting, DH and I are on the same side about 90% of the time when it comes to his family, it is not a quick process and it will not be amicably resolved in time to make plans for a summer baptism.

So then, you need a compromise. Your offer to provide reward tickets was generous. Here's another option. Tell DH, we have X amount this year to spend on a vacation. We were planning on using a portion of that to visit your parents later this year. If we spend money, rather than reward points, on your parents' tickets, that is coming out of our budget for visiting your family, and we will not be able to fly to see them later this year. That is eminently fair, although he may not see it as such. If you can afford to pay for a certain number of visits to his family in a year, even if that number is one, then it is not a problem to use that money to pay for his parents' flight. But any budget, no matter how large or small, is finite. You can't and shouldn't pay for everything.

Good luck.[/quote]

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