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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All this boundary and MY family kind of thing really baffles me.

When I was growing up, my grandfather stopped by every morning for coffee on the way to the station. My grandmother and stepGF would be over randomly during the week for dinner or dessert.

Aunts, uncles, and cousins would be through the house pretty regularly. I remember my mom being occasionally annoyed, but this was family. It's just how it worked.

I get that is not how everyone was raised, but I thought generally, there were exceptions for family.

When did we become so insulated and obsessed with boundaries etc? Weird.[/quote]

+1.  This is how I was raised and, thankfully, how my spouse was raised.  We married expecting and knowing that IL's were part of the family and would be treated as such.  So they had wide latitude to stop by - especially after calling first, which is what OP's MIL did.  At the same time, everyone understands if someone says no to something.  There are no hard feelings.  Sorry, if OP and her DH are too timid to stand up for themselves, I cannot blame the MIL.

IME, this is a big issue now that OP has a young child.  As the child grows, either the OP will "unclench" and learn to appreciate having another adult around or she will have burned that bridge with MIL.   [/quote]

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