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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unless you have a great relationship with your ex, why would he tell you?  It isn't your business.  Unless your custody agreement forbids it (I doubt it), I don't understand what the issue is.[/quote]

Really?  You wouldn't want to know who this person is who is spending a ton of time around your child?  What kind of a person are you?[/quote]

What you want to know and what you have a right to know are two different things.

"It isn't your business" means you don't have a right to know, however much you may want to.

This whole thread makes the OP look like a psycho. I am not surprised her ex wants to keep her at arms length.[/quote]

+ a million

OP, your ranting makes it VERY clear that you are obsessed with controlling your ex and unable to see just how inappropriate your behavior is. And I suspect you are treating your daughter as your support system. Your daughter should not be obsessively telling you she loves you and wondering if you are ok. It is YOUR job to do that for her. The fact that it's the other way around suggests that your daughter feels like it is her responsibility to keep you happy and to mediate the conflict between you and her father. Please get some counseling before you completely destroy that child. [/quote]

I know she shouldn't be saying all that stuff. She normally doesn't but started 3 weeks ago and I had no idea why. Now I do. Believe me, I understand fully how my behavior affects her. I know that 1000%. When she told me I was 100% calm and said its fine, next time she sees M, feel free to say hi. It's not a big deal.

It's her Dad that doesn't have a clue on how his behavior affects her. What she is learning is that the most significant man in her life completely minimizes any "bad" feeling she has. She tells me "But mom, I can't talk to Dad". Literally she called me at 7:30am to tell me something how she was feeling fat. I assured her that she's not at all, and that maybe she can talk to her Dad about it when she's with him. Nope. "I can't talk to Dad." It's tough to watch, but I know there's nothing I can do about it. But it still tugs at my heart strings. :(

New question - the ex recently told me he found my wedding dress in a pile of my old clothes in a trash bag in the attic and asked if I wanted it. Do I salvage it? Or burn it? I told him to throw everything else out. I don't really want it, but others have told me I should preserve it for my daughter.....[/quote]

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