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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am in the healthy, functional version of your situation. My ex told me when his relationship became serious enough to introduce GF to DD. Not asking for permission but letting me know because it was w big deal thing that affects DD's life. When she moved in, he also let me know that that was happening. I'm not interested in being friends with his lady, but we've met and are cordial with each other. She has my phone number and email in case there is an emergency (with DD when she's over there or with my ex himself). Maybe you could mention this proactively to your ex - "Just wanted to make sure M knows how to get in touch in case there's an emergency."

The posters flipping out on you are completely nuts. I'm sure they require background checks and references for an occasional babysitter but think your discomfort with your ex concealing a live in caregiver and asking a seven year old to lie is crazy. That should tell you a lot. [/quote]

^ This.  Every last word.

Especially the last paragraph.  These PPs saying it's none of your business that someone else - anyone else (girlfriend, roommate, family member, etc) - living in the same house where your child is spending a significant amount of time and spending the night are absurd.  It is most definitely your business.

Your ex asking your DD to lie is the icing on the cake.  Really unacceptable.

Please do your best to ignore the trolls insisting that you "made your bed" by divorcing this man.  First off, no one here knows why you divorced.  Maybe he was emotionally or physically abusive, maybe you simply fell out of love, maybe he simply fell out of love, maybe he was completely inconsiderate during your marriage like he is now, maybe he just left without an explanation, maybe he cheated, maybe you did.  It really does not matter.  When you have a child together, none of it matters.  You are her mother and you have every right to know who is around your daughter and how often.  I'm sure these PPs would be singing a different tune if the person who moved in with your ex was a man.  [/quote]

Or maybe she is the psycho she has revealed herself as. I'm guessing that is why he dipped out. Hopefully the new girlfriend can model how an emotionally healthy woman behaves.[/quote]

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