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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Good call, OP. At best he is really cheap. I also find this really strange:

"When it's time to leave, he gets up from the table and just leaves the little bill-container-envelope on the table. I think maybe he paid while I was in the bathroom, but don't want to assume anything, so I grab it and follow him. At this point he's like, right, we should pay at the bar."

I wasn't there so maybe it played out differently, but it kind of sounds like he was planning to pull a dine and dash and just stroll on out of the restaurant. If he was already walking away and you hadn't said anything, wouldn't it just have stayed unpaid at the table?

And then him having the bartender re-run the check to split it - wow. No es bueno.[/quote]

You're not wrong about how it played out - I went to the bathroom. Bill came while I was in the bathroom. When I got back to the table, we took our coats, etc. and he walked away from the table first, leaving the bill holder on the table, which I then picked up and followed him with. At the time, I didn't think of the dine-and-dash thing, but reading through the responses, it could have been a possibility, whether deliberately (I don't like to think so) or just due to absent-mindedness.

And yes, asking the bartender to split it after he put it all on his car was cringe-inducing. It wasn't even that expensive - about $80 including tip. I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, because we'd had a really good date that night, and since I'd pulled out my card first on the first date, thought maybe he thought that I was insistent on paying for myself, so I went with it. Between that and last night, I'm fully convinced he has no intention of paying, at least not until I agree to exclusivity. The way things have gone, I'm not agreeing to that, and probably not seeing him at all anymore, so the whole 'who pays' thing just becomes a really vicious circle and moot point. [/quote]

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