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[quote=Anonymous]1. I note that OP is only responding positively to people who are on "her side" -- and name-calling those who aren't. This tells me OP is not looking for advice but for validation.

2. OP: it is not your husband's job to fix you. It is your job to get help from a professional and fix yourself. Adults are generally not "fragile" unless there is a huge tragedy (death of a loved one, injury or illness, loss of home, etc). Everyone has tough days at work. The fact that it makes you fragile means you need help. This is not being mean, this is being honest.

3. OP: Your call was not horrible, though it was needy and somewhat manipulative. But your punitive response for your husband to stay out of town was horrible. You don't get to punish him for not doing what you want him to do. You can ask, and if he doesn't do what you want on a regular basis, you are free to end the relationship. Full stop. You can't tell him he can't come home and try to punish him. He's not a child.

4. OP: You seem to have a victim mentality. People who don't agree with you are "trashing you" and "attacking you." Your husband doesn't say the exact things you want to nurse your emotions along and he's "abusive." Working a full day (!) makes you "fragile." This is really, really unhealthy.

Please, from someone who got so much help from seeing a therapist: SEE A THERAPIST. You will be a stronger, more resilient person.[/quote]

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