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[quote=Anonymous]OP, it could be that you just didn't describe what happened very well in your initial post. But based on what you wrote, it sounds like:  you called her husband and said you're feeling "alone and unsupported" and can he say something to help you feel "cared about." He got defensive and asked why you were attacking him. He pointed to his waiting for a plumber as proof he loves you. You then told him to stay out of town and now say you feel abused.

On that description, you sound like you're being pretty annoying and unfair. Telling your husband you feel "alone and unsupported" and not "cared about" and asking him to say something to change that DOES suggest that HE is the one not supporting you or caring about you. That's why he felt attacked. His thing about waiting for the plumber supports that--he interpreted you as accusing him of not caring about you or loving you. And then telling him to stay out of town and saying you feel abused blows it up to a crazy level.

Now, if he screamed at you or is in some other way cold and unfeeling, that certainly explains your feelings (although it would not explain why you'd keep going to him and asking for emotional propping up that you know he will not give you). But you didn't say that. That's why people are reacting the way they are. [/quote]

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