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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG!! This entire rant is about how his wife doesn't understand the sacrifices required of a parent. She carried the babies, she went through labor and delivery and HE gets to decide if she has made enough sacrifice or not. My husband was also very insistent on breast milk, our issues were different, pre term babies with latching issues and my milk supply was terribly low so formula it was. Other than that he never said a word as to what I do during 9 months and was supportive of everything like any regular spouse. I had mild Hormonal issues for 10 days after delivery, God if he had uttered a single word I would have packed his bags just because it was such a difficult, exhausting time for me. I pray for your wife, I hope she continues on the path of education and eventually take the kids and leave you for good. You are a piece of work. This is coming from someone who values FAMILY and would sacrifice it all for family.[/quote]

You see this is the difference.  YOU took care of the kids.

My issue is that my wife did not take care of the kids.

And I was attacked on this board with people not believing me.  And when I was finally able to prove my point then people attacked my career and the threat to my masculinity.  And that wasn't the issue at all.  And like I said, I feel like I do pretty well in my career.

The general thought and belief is that the mothers are the ones that take care of the kids.  And it annoys the heck out of me given what we went through with the first child.

But as mentioned in a previous post that's all in the past.  My wife tries the best she can now.  I know some things are out of her control.  I do resent when I feel like she doesn't come home when I think she should.

I was mad a couple of days ago and when that happens every little thing in the past comes up.  And that's the things that stuck in my mind when I posted this.

But like I said things are better now and I know she tries.  I know some of you might feel bad for her and my kids.  We'll see how it goes.  I'd like to think that there are more good days then bad.

And to a couple of posts up, that's the issue I have.  But in my previous post I forgot to mention that I have no control over other households or right to an opinion on what they do.  So can only control what goes on in my own house.  You know the wine tasting couple?  I'm sure they had a similar mentality that you had in still wanting to enjoy the things that they did in life.  But my point is I'm sorry, once you become a parent play time is over.  And being a parent is more than just providing the physical things in life.  You might not be the exact same case as the family that I have in mind.  Where the family I have in mind have caretakers that do the little stuff for their kids day to day AND then leaves the area every chance they get.  I shouldn't pass judgement I know.  I do wonder what will happen in 18 years and the kids are out of the house.  And I'm not saying to totally drop your social life.  But life is different when you're a parent.  And honestly all of this selfishness I see these days seems to be something relatively recent.

Someone asked me about my culture.  But honestly I feel like what I'm asking for is a return to the good old fashioned American values.  I won't go on my soapbox and talk about how many issues I think is due to a loss of this.[/quote]

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