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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this may sound a little impersonal, but cost is a big concern.  You want to make sure that you're both on board with having a second child.  What if (heaven forbid)  your spouse dies, you get divorced, or you have a child with special needs?  I am the mother of an only child.  He is 35 and he is very lonely.  I regret not having a second child.  I myself was the youngest of two children.  You're correct about the burden an only child may face.  I am alone and unmarried now (at 62), and if my car breaks down, sometimes I call on him.  I had a gall bladder attack, and he had to rush me to the hospital!  I try not to ask him for any help, but sometimes family is who you trust the most in some situations.  So yes if I had it to do over again, I think I would have had at least two children![/quote]

I am 35 and an only.  I was once lonely, but now I am not--I have no time to be; I have a husband and two children.

It is true that I had to care for my father when he declined and died, right when I had a newborn.  I will not lie that it was difficult.  However my husband helped, my extended family helped, and we hired as much help as we could afford, and we kept him comfortable at home until the end.

Not every only child goes through what I did.  My only child friend's dad just passed, but he was in good health until the end; she never was a caregiver and in fact lived across the country.  And not everyone with siblings is able to share the responsibilities.  My husband is one of three, and only one of his siblings is in the same country as his parents.

Don't beat yourself up and don't regret.[/quote]

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