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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a 32 year old single dad. 
I'd say that online isn't quite so bad. You're just filtering through the crap right now. You'll eventually come across something worthwhile. I think the "my child is my world" thing will appeal to men with the right attitudinal set of values. Even though we share custody, my daughter is essentially my shadow. I've dated childless women since my divorce, but I found it to be rather perplexing: a lot of them were attracted to me because of my relationship with my daughter, but immediately threatened by it once we started dating.

To their credit, I think some of them had a disconnect between their idea of what it's like to have kids and reality. Understandably, some people can't adapt to being thrust into a ready-made family with time constraints, financial sacrifices, and shared attention with a child they didn't birth. For these reasons, I've changed my filters (OkCupid) to women with kids. At my age, I think they have a better handle on things, plus they'll be able to gauge rather or not they could handle the mental stress of adding another child to their lives.

I've dated two women over the last year and a half who both had kids. They both seemed to be easier to date due to shared background: school schedules, extracurriculars in the evenings or weekends, and having to split custody with the dads. The dads were a pain in the ass to deal with, but you can't have everything. Ultimately, it didn't work out with either. One was obviously still in love with her ex-husband. The other was going in a different direction in life.

I've forgotten the point of my rambling, but...good luck. It's not hopeless. [/quote]

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