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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he insists on these visits HE can do the extra work.  Meals, cleaning, chauffer, etc. [b] Do not compromise[/b].[/quote]

I agree with OP's angst for the most part, but if my spouse refused to be gracious to my parents (no matter how he felt about them visiting), we would be done as a couple. [/quote]

Getting DH to take on extra burden of work connected to parent visits and being ungracious to ILs are not the same.  
You can get the DH to help and still be cordial to ILs when they show up.  [b]The problem is that everything gets dumped on OP, hence the resentment.[/b] Being a gracious work horse with an infant is taking a toll on her.  Which is neither fair nor reasonable.[/quote]

Where did OP say this? Her OP does not say this at all.  Did he come back and day this or is this people adding facts to support their position?[/quote]

They eat 2-3 times a day. Fact. They need clean bed linens and these linens need to be laundered afterwards. Fact. 
Reasonable assumptions: there is some kitchen work and clean up as well as house/bathroom clean up.

Who the hell wants that 4 nights each month in a tight space (which is mentioned in the OP)? And entertaining 2 adults on top of caring for a baby and trying to run your own household? My husband had grandiose plans for his mom to come from overseas and stay with us for several weeks around the time when the baby is born.  He got so offended when I said I don't want any "help" from her. So our deal is that if he invites her he needs to take time off work for the duration of the stay and entertain her.  If roles were reversed I would totally do the same and deal with my family, it's only fair.[/quote]

Right....you are assuming and adding facts to support your position.  Until OP confirms that this what is happening and her DH is a slacker, you are all speculating.  The OP says that she does not like her IL's and that is waht is causing the stress.  She has to play nice.  She did NOT say that she was stuck doing all the work. [/quote]

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