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[quote=Anonymous]Your sister - and especially your mom, who knows what it's like to be raising a young family and doesn't even have the excuse of being distracted by "I'm a briiiiiide"! - are being completely ridiculous and they. are. in. the. wrong. No two ways about it. You are completely sensible to be thinking not just about the financial cost to your family, which is a very reasonable and important factor to consider, but also the stress involved with traveling to this destination wedding. And I say this as someone who also had a destination wedding (in our case we live quite far from both our families, so lots of people would have had to travel regardless - but we chose a place where *everyone* would have to travel to get there. So clearly a destination wedding). When we made that decision we knew it would mean many of our close friends and family couldn't come and that was our issue to deal with, not theirs.

My sister did come and brought her husband my two young (5 and 7) nieces. We loved that they were there, made the nieces both flower girls, it was great. My dear cousin came alone and left his wife and their two little ones at home, and we were so happy to see him and missed his wife and daughters but that was great too. My DH's brother did not come, because he had been planning to use his time and money that year to go on a vacation to a completely different exotic location, and we missed him, but that was absolutely fine too; we saw him several months later and loved looking at the pix of his awesome trip (which was way cooler than where we had our wedding - heck, we probably should've gone with him). You are not the bad guy here! In fact if I were you I'd turn the tables and start throwing some heavy guilt back on them instead. Knock 'em off guard. I hate people who give guilt trips and have found that giving it right back often shuts them down fast as they move on to easier prey.

Tl;dr: agree with those who say RSVP for one. I bet when you're there your sister will be so busy she won't even notice who's missing and you will all have a fine time.

(And to those who say it'd be a "slap in the face not to take your husband" - really?? - who is supposed to stay home with your twins while you're away? C'mon, that's just a stupid comment by the sort of people who love to look for a reason to take offense at anything.)[/quote]

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