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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP who divorced after six months here.  :roll: Thought I was being loving by overlooking his lack of ambition and accepting his positive traits. Felt guilty breaking up with him because he was the way he is. I did him a terrible disservice and wasted 5 years of my life and his.

So the guy isn't going to be the next Jack Welch. Accept it. Marry him and spend the remainder of your life telling yourself little lies every single day about how you feel about your life with him. When you have friends in your 30s and 40s with husbands who are more striving, when you put your kids in a less than stellar school district, you will have to squelch any negative feelings whatsoever to make this work for decades.

What kind of marriage will you have? A dishonest one.

Or in the spirit of honesty, you could tell this guy very specifically what you expect from marriage.And tell him that if you two marry, his lack of motivation will always bother you....a lot. And that you've been posting about this issue on this forum because it bothers you THAT much. He deserves to know his lack of motivation will be an issue for you. You state what's true for you. He states what's true for him. That's the foundation of a healthy relationship.

Good luck to you both.

OP here.

We have talked about this. This is what attracted me to him initially- that he wanted a family and to provide for them. He always talks about how he wants our children to have everything they want and how we have to ensure they aren't spoiled and how he is only going to put them in private school. His intentions are great, I just don't think he realizes  that to have that lifestyle we need to make choices now. He needs to find a career path that would be more lucrative or do something in that direction. Right now he makes 60K which is great for us now when we're young and single and all we do is go out to dinners and the theater but that never put kids in private school. :cry:

I am pretty motivated, I am in the process of applying to business school because I figure, since he isn't in finance, we can't have that lifestyle on just his income alone. I need to up my game and ensure that I do my best to have the life I want for us.

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