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You don't need to be "PC" to feel sorry for someone who thinks that a five pound weight gain on a 5'10" frame is disgusting. We're not talking about 40 lbs, which on YOUR frame might be too much.

But remember that this ridiculous comment line started when you insisted that OP was grossly overweight at 190, and you know that you should weigh only 145, suggesting that 145 is the ideal weight for every woman of your height.   Now you are backpedaling and saying that you just want what you feel is best for YOUR body, but you used that arbitrary number to judge OP.

145 might be truly healthy for you.  190 is likely too much for OP, but it is foolish to suggest that because you feel you are disgusting at 150, OP should also feel disgusting at 150.

Your view toward your body is unhealthy.  When I gain five pounds I don't feel disgusting.  I make some minor tweaks in my diet if necessary and move a little more, appreciating that fluctuations in body weight are normal, and plod along happily.  I don't start a downward spiral of self-loathing. [/quote]
Well now you're putting words in my mouth.  Here is my original comment to OP:

"OP, I'm sorry. But I think you're fudging things a bit. You are not "a few pounds" over your weight. 40 pounds is a LOT of weight. And at 150 pounds, you were not thin. I know that because I'm 5'10'', and 150 is my upper range weight. I'm not fat per se at 150 pounds, but not thin either, and if I kept up my gym routine, I'd never get beyond 145. What I'm saying is that you have a weight problem. You really do. Whether this is the reason your DH is turned off or not, we'll never know, but your weight is an issue. It's up to you whether to take care of that or not, but your weight is not normal. "

As you can see, I never suggested she should weigh 145.  I know she probably can't.  But I stand by my comment that a 40-pound gain on a woman who was previously 150 is not "a few pounds", and neither can it be healthy or explained by some mysterious growth in muscle tissue. I judge her weight based on the 190 number. Not the 150 number. I never told her she should feel disgusting at 150.  That, you made up. I still think 150 is not thin but no one has to be thin.  Staying at 150 would have been an improvement for her.

Being 150 is not a five-pound gain for me, it's more like 10.

You and me may have different definitions of thin.  To me, thin women are size 2, zero, double zero.  Runway models are thin. This condition is not achievable for most women, nor is it healthy for them.  So yes, 150 is not a thin woman. [/quote]

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