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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Having btdt with the whole low minute thing (needing to leave enough so that my kids could get a hold of me if they needed to), it's possible that she came across abrupt and rude. When really what she was saying was the truth - "I want to talk to you, but I can't talk long on this phone because it's about to go dead". When she got to a phone that she could call you from, YOU ignored her call because you "don't like drama".

Honestly, you sound like a bit of a pill yourself. Sorry.[/quote]

I don't think you read carefully.  The OP offered to call her sister at home, and when the sister said she wasn't home, asked her where she was so that she could call her.  This caused the sister to take great offense.  You shouldn't call people names if you didn't even bother to read their post.[/quote]

Her sister was probably annoyed (stressed!) that Op, who had basically called to chat, kept asking her questions knowing that her minutes were rapidly disappearing as they spoke.  After they hung up, it sounds as though sis replayed the conversation in her head and felt bad about her abruptness - tried to smooth things over "I want to talk to you!" but Op had already gone into sulk mode - Apology not accepted! And all poor sis was trying to do was pick up milk before her kid got out of school...

Now Op is the wronged victim.  And sis is a big old meanie.  Well - I will be the lone one to say.  Nope.  Op, you sound high drama.  Sorry.[/quote]

You are entitled to your opinion.  If my sister was stressed about her minutes, she was under no obligation to answer the phone in the first place.  She could have texted to let me know that and asked me to call her at home.  That is what someone who values relationships and other people would do.  You sound just like my sister, making excuses for rudeness when really, there are none.  You honestly have nothing of value to add here and you've made your point.  [/quote]

NP here. The thing is OP, nobody is perfect. Not every fault in your relationship is going to be because of her or her illness. I think everyone has something that sets them off, but if you ignore those triggers it's hardly fair. For example, my mom gets really tense before flying, so I try to be extra patient.

I know this is difficult, but you do seem a bit dramatic about it. Just realize that you will make mistakes too, which will hopefully increase your compassion for her. [/quote]

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