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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, just want to say your post isn't offensive to anyone except those who are trying really REALLY hard to find a reason to be offended. [/quote]

Agreed. And the women who are nasty to the women who decide to be SAHMs, wow, I guess you missed the part of feminism where women got to make their own life choices. Honestly I think the women who scold other women for being SAHM riding the man gravy train are the same women posting in the Relationship forum about their crap husbands. Sorry your man isn't quality and you have to worry about him running out on you, that doesn't mean all women are in the same position. [/quote]

wtf?

Who's being hard on her decision to SAH?  no one

We're simply saying that IF she had any fucking common sense, she'd REALIZE many people - young & old, male & female - can't stand their jobs.  What does being a former SAH have to do with anything?

It simply doesn't.

And no, I have no fear that my husband will run out on me, but nor do I feel the need to have an "allowance" each week.  Furthermore, there are plenty of wives who out earn their husbands and many couples who earn the same salary. My husband and I are very close in what we earn.  It's not always about being taken care of.  But your last sentence does indeed place women in subordinate roles now, doesn't it?  And aren't there plenty of "quality" men who don't out earn their wives?

What a thread filled with stereotypes!  But that's typical of people who are ignorant.[/quote]

+1000

This is about grown-ups realizing that in order to support their family and lifestyle (be it trips to Europe or trips to grocery store), more income is needed. When grown-ups realize this, they do what they can to increase income. If they have the right combination of luck and determination and available hours in the day, then are able to find a way to increase income. And it's sunshine and roses when income can be increased by doing something (or doing more of something) one loves to do. But sadly, that's actually not that common for anyone, male or female.

Most people's hearts do not reside at their place of employment. That, my feminist and non-feminist friends, is life. Having been, or wanting to be, a SAHP doesn't change this.

Furthermore, taking a lengthy break from paid employment has long-term consequences that are frequently not appreciated by younger people. I myself worked part-time and as a contractor for many years. Now, at 50, I can see more clearly the cost of this decision. I probably earn less now than I would have had I devoted more time to my career. This means the cost of those part-time years (or time out of the work-force) is compounded well into the future, if not into one's personal perpetuity. And I will have to work much longer until I can retire with a pension (because I banked less time when I worked part-time and wasn't banking any time at all when I was a contractor--and though I diligently put aside money in retirement accounts during these years, the money I set aside is worth less than the banked time would be). For me, I don't have a lot of regret because I am very healthy and I enjoy my job, so the idea of working longer doesn't bother me much. And I am lucky in that I am still married to DH#1, who is himself is healthy and employed. But if had health problems or found it difficult to perform as I got older, or if I were single and facing the prospect of middle and old age without the assistance of DH's salary and future pension/retirement savings, I might have have deep, deep regrets.[/quote]

DH#1?  Wow.

And you seem very focused on money...guess if that makes you happy? [/quote]

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