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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How much would you have to pay a kind, loving, educated nanny to[b] be on call 24/7, to forgo all sick/vacation days and stay with the job for 18 years?  Someone who takes care of your kids with long term consequences in mind?  Someone who loves your kids so much that they'd run through a fire to save them?  Someone who is willing to nurse your sick kids while they themselves are sick?[/b]
What is a SAHP anyway....it is someone who loves their job so much that they are willing to work for free.  
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This is ridiculous, and I support women who SAH wholeheartedly. If it makes sense, it works for you, then that is great and wonderful.  But this is crap because, guess what -- WOHM also do all of this. And work. And they also don't get paid for all the "overtime" they put in, do they? I work full time and I take off every sick day, I make breakfast, play, do baths before work, I plan activities for the kids, pack their lunches, arrange their schedules and deal with their nanny, who I carefully researched and selected, and I check in several times a day. I meal plan for lunch and dinners at home with the nanny. I come home, I do play, snack, loving, bedtime routine, nighttime wakeups, arrange all doctor's visits, do all their laundry, do all the grocery shopping. And I am the primary breadwinner. This is not an ode to me -- the point is, ALL PARENTS WORK THIS HARD. And not to engage in a pissing contest, but I am quasi part time and the days I spend at home are a BREEZE compared to the days I commute, work, and commute home. Working just means you miss out on the fun, playing hours between 9-5. You still get to do all the crap. So seriously, quit acting as though there is some monetary value or accolades deserved for taking care of your kids. It is something we all do and should do and its not some kind of moral imperative to do it without working. Society does not owe you anything for deciding to stay at home. The only value is what you and your family place upon it. The end. [/quote]

Your nanny drives your children to their rehearsals, and practices, and appointments, and school pickups, not you, because you are at work.

You plan the meals, but the nanny helps make them.

The nanny presumably straightens up the house and picks up around the house for you.

In other words, you admittedly delegate to your nanny a lot of the work that someone who stays home without a nanny does all by themselves.  So no, you do not work as hard on the home front as apparent staying home without a nanny.

How do I know this?  Because I have done both work full-time, and later work part-time, with the assistance of a nanny, and stay at home without the assistance of a nanny.  No comparison in terms of at-home workload.  My friends, especially those who work, are honest with themselves, and acknowledge the difference as well.[/quote]

Obviously my nanny does the driving when I am work, so from 9-5 three days a week. I appreciate that your experience may be different, but on the days I work versus the days I do not, working is about 1000 times harder/more stressful/more work and planning. [/quote]

That is because you are taking a mental break from your office routine.  Also, you know that no matter what happens you will be back at work on Monday with the nanny caring for the children again.  A stay-at-home parent without a nanny does not have any such reprieve from their routine, schedule, and childcare duties.[/quote]

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