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[quote=Anonymous]I am heading home and can answer some questions. Honestly, I have been venting and it's been helpful and some of the ideas (including the cleaner) I am going to hop on. Thank you for the constructive feedback. Obviously there are communication issues and I don't even know how to deal with them.

Our situation is really a massive change. No one thought being a SAHP was on the table in our marriage. Even with our first DW worked and like it until she ran into issues and quit. Those issues had nothing to do with childcare, but she was pregnant and was discouraged job hunting and that was that, I guess.

I waited a year after our second before broaching the subject. He'll be two in 6-9 months (and preschool eligible), so that is why I began pushing the issue until I realized it was going no where. I then started therapy because I was resentful and needed to let that go to really be fair about what our family needs. I am still working on that.

I had a great family friendly job, but we needed more money so I actually scrambled and doubled my income by taking a new job. It's a strange catch 22 because I wish I was around more and would down shift but I can't because we need the money and DE (according to come of you) won't work because I work too much so the cycle goes on...

I know I am resentful because I couldn't make this choice and wasn't given any real input on it and was forced to make the best of things. I know that. But I love my wife and want her to be happy and honestly know this isn't it, but can't be truly supportive of her until I let go of my resentment.  That is what I have been working through.

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