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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I understand why you're hurt. I would be, too. Not because she couldn't afford to come, but because she clearly had a travel budget for weddings, and yours was not the one prioritized. That said, as other people pointed out, there may be something else going on with her that you aren't aware of, and she sounds like she's been a good friend to you historically. If I were you, I'd sit on my feelings for a bit. You may find out with time if something else was really going on that may explain it better, or she may continue to be the good friend she always was, minus this occasion, and you may decide that this one thing (though it's a big one) doesn't matter so much in the grand scheme of things. Or this may be the beginning of a new behaviour pattern for her, in which case, the friendship has likely run its course.

That said - I strenuously disagree with all those who were willing to give the friend a pass because going to weddings when you're single in your 30s is tough, and I am a never-married woman in my mid-30s. How selfish are people who think they cannot celebrate their friend's happiness unless they have experienced that exact same happiness themselves? Would they not attend a party to celebrate a friend's promotion if their career were less successful than theirs? How about the bad times? Not go to the hospital when their friend's loved one was ill, because they had 'issues' with hospitals? This never-married person thinks that having friends is a bit like a marriage - you need to be there through the good times, and the bad, and show up even when it's uncomfortable, and sometimes do things to honour your relationship with the other person, even when you don't really feel like it, if you know it will be important to them. I have friends like these in my life, who didn't drop me when they got married, likely because I am the kind of friend who was genuinely happy for, and showed up to celebrate, their relationships, even while I was single. [/quote]

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