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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One idea no one has raised -

Is it possible she's upset that she's still single and you're getting married?  I had a very close friend who did not react well when I met my now-husband.  We had been the two single girls forever and then I wasn't.

Also, I think these responses are pretty harsh.  I understand why your feelings are hurt.  Mine would be too.  She is sending you the message loud and clear that you are not a priority for her.  All you can do is take in that information and then act accordingly in the future.  In other words, are you prioritizing her too high when she is not doing the same for you.  It probably will change the nature of your friendship and I think that's ok.  [/quote]

[quote]Wow, some of you guys seem REALLY angry.

I don't often post, but this thread and the replies are kind of out of control. Wanting a friend to come to your wedding does not make someone a bridezilla. She is not saying she will stop being friends with this girl who said she cannot afford to come. She is saying she is hurt, which seems pretty valid. Sure, a wedding is just a few hours of a day, but it is an important event in life.

Also ... whoever said that people who make a big deal about weddings are people who get divorces is a real dick. I don't think OP is being dramatic and I also don't think caring about having a friend go to her wedding makes her more likely to get divorced. I mean seriously?

OP. You have some good advice (and a lot of unhelpful comments too) here. Let her know you are sorry she can't make it and that you will miss her. I'm sorry this happened, but it sounds like from others here, it's not uncommon either. FWIW.[/quote]

Allow me to express my gratitude for your sanity. Are you a unicorn, by any chance?

[quote]I am not sure why everyone is giving OP a hard time. If a really good friend told me she could not attend my wedding I would be sad. I would probably offer to fly her out with FF miles (so she didn't feel guilty about me spending money) and maybe even pay for the room if I could afford it.

That said, if she told me she could not come for financial reasons and then proceeded to tell me about a wedding she went to in Europe and her next vacation I would be a bit insulted. It is just a fact. I wouldn't call her out on it but I would definitely take it as a signal that she does not see our friendship as a priority.

OP is not a bitch or a bridezilla. She is a normal woman who really wanted her friend to attend her wedding. OP said she was having a small wedding which means she prioritized this friend over others and she is sad to learn her friend doesn't feel the same need to prioritize her. 
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[quote]Pp again, Personally I would rather spend $1000 to go to Europe than some wedding in Maryland or wherever you are. Get over it!
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Wow, you're a real treasure aren't you? I think the source of the venom in the replies OP got have a lot to do with the fact that most of these mean, bitter PPs don't even know how to be friends themselves. Such treasures![/quote]

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