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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You think it is a good thing that you have a child managing a fast food joint? I don't even know where to start.

That said, why don't you at least talk to him about going to community college first and then the guaranteed admissions programs to state universities after that. If you live in VA, in particular, it is an excellent option, but MD is good too.

Please, stop telling him that he is not prepared to go to college.

I honestly do not understand why people like you have three children. Selfishly, I would love that, but I am not having three children because I cannot afford three children. I would never have three children with the plan from the outset that I would not contribute to college. I just really don't get it.[/quote]OP here:

Do I think it's a good thing? He is self sufficient and not sitting in my basement playing videogames like too many people nowadays. Do I wish he was making $100k a year? Yeah, but that's his choice.

I don't think he is ready for any college. If he wants to go to community college, he can on his own dime. At that point, he will not be my responsibility.

[b]He has a 3.0 GPA, he IS NOT ready for further schooling.[/b][/quote]

WHAT?

Lady, I had a 3.1 GPA when I graduated high school. I went on to a state university, and then to a second tier medical school and now here I am, a doctor  making more than $300,000 every year. I was absolutely ready for further schooling, just not for Harvard. And if I hadn't had nice parents who paid the in-state tuition for my college and then contributed 50% to medical school, I wouldn't be where I am today.

You're an awful mother, limiting your child's opportunities because you're determined to be pessimistic and can't see the potential in him. You're supposed to help your child get through life, not hold him back. Do you know how much even state universities cost these days? They were cheaper in my time but they've soared in cost since then. It is unreasonable, cruel and stupid to expect a high school kid to bear the entire responsibility of their college expenses. You're a terrible parent.[/quote]

Curious.  Now that you make 300k, are you paying your parents back?[/quote]

Not that poster, but had to comment on this. That's such a strange attitude to me. In my extended family this is not something anyone would think to ask. Family doesn't "pay back" family because family doesn't "owe" family or keep track of "debts" like that. Family just helps out when someone needs something we value and can afford to help with. We help our parents with expenses in retirement, tried to pay to move them out nearer to us when they started needing more help and the siblings were all across the country, found them an assisted living arrangement they were happy with when they refused the former, pay for them to come on family vacations with us/grandkids, stuff like that. We didn't "pay back" a lump sum of  whatever they paid on our college because (1) we didn't keep track of how much it was and have no idea, and (2) they would be deeply hurt and offended if we tried that. So we just do what's needed and/or what they will let us.[/quote]

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