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[quote=Anonymous]Don't know if OP is for real or not but I'm familiar with the "we won't help you go to college" mindset.. my ILs are like that.  They have 3 kids and didn't encourage any of them to go to college.  In their working class community, they see college as a waste of money since nearly everyone they know who went to college dropped out.  DH is the rarity -- got an engineering degree at the local university, moved away as soon as he graduated, and has had a good career in IT.

Their middle kid was the most interested in college so he joined the military. Unfortunately, he wasn't mature enough for that, had a bad attitude, and ended up discharged early. I'm not clear on the details -- it wasn't a "dishonorable" but it wasn't full benefits either.  Now he's living at home and working at a restaurant while he takes CC classes.  Their oldest had no interest in academics and ended up getting pg at 19.  She did end up getting a good FT job w/ benefits and is taking one class at a time toward a degree -- she' s bit more motivated now that she has a son.  The youngest so far seems to have no interest in college. Just turned 21 and works a variety of jobs. At least the parents do provide moral support, however, and provide housing -- the younger kids live at home and the oldest lives in a nearby house that BIL/SIL inherited and now rent to her at a low rate.

I do think parents have a responsibility to help their kids explore their options, figure out how to apply for colleges and financial aid if they are motivated to go to school, and should expect that kids will probably need to live with them past age 18 until they can save money and/or finish further education/training.  But, I don't think all parents have an obligation to foot the bill if it isn't financially feasible.  [/quote]

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