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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you sound perfectly sane to me.

I agree with PPs that you can't tell her no iPad.

1) You can ask her to not bring it, saying that you are going for a no-electronics Christmas and tell her the Wifi will be turned off.

2) My MIL watches TV (news) all the time, all day; it's horrible.  I get it.  
The kids don't get why grandma doesn't spend any time with them and all that.  My solution--which has worked, is to basically throw grandma under the bus!

In all seriousness, I think it's important to explain to your kids the dynamics of adults, especially when something unhealthy or weird is going on.  Otherwise, the explanation that kids insert when things are unexplained is that the adult is normal, so something must be wrong with them (the kid) that grandma is acting that way.  For your kids' sakes, you need to lay out that your kids are fine and it's grandma who has the problem.

"That adults are people, that they are not perfect, and that sometimes even ones we love engage in behaviors that we would not.  And the problem is that even though they are in my house, since they are adults, and in this situation I cannot tell grandma to shut it off…her behavior is rude and I never want to see you doing this.  And I know it's also sad, because you want to spend time with her and you can't, and  she's missing out on spending time with you, but that's the choice she's made and we just have to deal with it…it has nothing to do with you, if she were with your cousins she would be ignoring them and face timing you!"

Something like that…

Now, on a different note--OP, get your iPad ready or borrow someone's, and have your kids go to their room and FaceTime grandma in the living room.[/quote]
Geez -- lady it's just not that deep. [/quote]

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